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2015年1月23日 星期五
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Bonding
Bonding is the heart of intimacy.
More encompassing and enduring than passion or lust (though at times it may
include them), bonding is a source of total body pleasure that remains, even
when sexual capacity is diminished because of illness or age. It’s a closeness
that fills both skin hunger and the need to feel safe in the world, to feel
that you can trust another person with your whole being, your laughter, your
tears, your rage, your joy. It’s the deep satisfaction of all three parts of
your brain. At its most heightened level, it’s as close as most of us get to
the exquisite experience, however temporary, of fusion with another being.
…While bonding may be shown by
such simple gesture of warmth and affection as hugs and kisses, true bonding is
much more than that. Its essence lies in total certainty that your partner is
emotionally fully there with you and for you – open to you in body, heart and
mind – and knowing that you can offer the same to your partner. It’s the
ability to lower your defenses and share yourself fully with another human
being, knowing that you are accepted and loved for what you really are, and
knowing that you don’t have to pretend.
Gordon,
H. Lori: Passage to Intimacy. (New York & Others: Simon & Schuster:
1993)
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