跨代愛情工作坊(2014)

日期:      2014年8月4,11,18,25日(星期一)

時間:      晚上7:00 – 9:00

地點:      西營盤 醫院道30號 贊育醫院5樓

費用:      每人每節$500，全四節$1600

                如夫妻/愛人、祖父母/父母/子孫、師/生同來，每人每節$400，全四節$1300

世界上的愛情問題已越來越嚴重，成年人的婚姻有一半會以離婚收場，未離婚的大多也只在「捱」，損害個人健康、工作能力及兒女成長。未婚的年青人則因為不曉得如何去愛，難找對象、找到了也不知能維持多久，以至遲遲不能組織家庭、生兒育女。結果是大部份人要為愛情失敗付出沉重代價，社會嚴重人口老化，快達崩潰邊緣。

究其原因，在無論老中青三代，都缺乏愛情教育，即使有，亦只是從坊間得來的奇形怪狀「示範」、口號或不切實際的空言。不過，好的愛情方法，其實一直都存在於日常人格教育之中，只是我們從來沒有認真地去學，更沒有應用它到愛情上面而已。這工作坊會告訴你哪些自小在學校教導的人格教育是愛情基本功，哪些思想心法又會令你更容易與愛人相處，然後示範一些從而發展出來的簡單技巧，使愛情真能成為你的一生享受。

既然所教的都很基本淺白，只須經過簡單提點去想去用，這工作坊歡迎老中青三代都來參加，好能同一時間幫助改進他們的愛情問題，也促進他們在這些問題上的互相了解與交流。

導師:吳敏倫教授：精神科醫生，性學家，除了有數十年經驗幫助無數人解決他們的性愛問題外，自己亦已結婚40多年，育有兩孩兩孫，不但仍深愛他從筆友時期認識的妻子，而且還繼續互相「每天愛你多一些」。

參加者: 任何有興趣瞭解如何建立與培育長期戀愛關係的12 歲以上人士

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Four Aspects of Family Life

In my years as a family therapist, I have found that four aspects of family life keep popping up in the troubled families who come to me for help. They are –

• the feeling and ideas on has about himself, which I call self-worth;
• the ways people work out to make meaning with one another, which I call communication;
• the rules people use for how they should feel and act, which eventually develop into what I call the family system; and
• the way people relate to other people and institutions outside the family, which I call the link to society.

No matter what kind of problem first led a family into my office – whether a nagging wife or an unfaithful husband, a delinquent son or a schizophrenic daughter – I soon found that the prescription was the same. To relieve their family pain, some way had to be found to change those four key factors. In all of these troubled families I noticed that –

• self worth was low;
• communication was indirect, vague, and not really honest;
• rules were rigid, inhuman, nonnegotiable, and everlasting; and
• the linking to society was fearful, placating, and blaming.

Fortunately, I have also had the joy of knowing some untroubled and nurturing families – especially in my more recent workshops to help families develop more fully their potential as human beings. In these vital and nurturing families, I consistently see a different pattern –

• self-worth is high;
• communication is direct, clear, specific, and honest;
• rules are flexible, human, appropriate, and subject to change; and
• the linking to society is open and hopeful.

excerpt from: Virginia Satir (1972) Peoplemaking.

pdf: Four Aspects of Family Life