Heartfelt. Take a moment to appreciate this word. To truly feel positivity in your heart requires that you slow down. The pace of modern life is often so relentless that it keeps you focused outward, away from your inner core. Over time, this stance numbs your heart. To increase your positivity, you’ll need to “un-numb” your heart. Let it feel. Let it sense with your heart, not just with your eyes, ears, and mind. Let yourself breathe in and fully absorb the goodness that surrounds you. Connect to that goodness. Revel in it. Together with a sincere attitude, this slower pace unlocks your heartfelt positivity.
Why does this matter? Because positivity that is not felt – that does not register in your heart or in your body – is empty. It does you no good. Actually, it can be worse than no good. It can be downright harmful. Fake smiles, just like sneers of anger, predict heart will collapse. Positive words not matched with positive feelings wash the body in stress hormones. Insincere positivity is not positivity at all. It’s negativity in disguise. To truly benefit from the gestures of positivity – whether a smile, a touch, or an embrace – you need to slow down and drink in what that gesture means. Make it heartfelt.
Fredrickson, F. Barbara: Positivity: Top-notch research reveals the 3-to-1 ratio that will change your life. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2009. p.180.